Even though I've been on both sides, if you will, I don't think I'll ever understand sexual attraction. And, after an experience I had tonight, I'm not sure that I want to.
No, I didn't get date-raped, or raped in any other way. Fucked, maybe. Well, I didn't have sex; then again, I wasn't looking for it. But I feel that, in some way, I was ambushed by someone's sexual desire or curiosity.
I'd just gotten back from taking a bike ride after the class I taught. I hadn't showered or changed, so I was kind of sweaty and grimy. (It was unusually warm for this time of year.) Also, as you can see in the photos I've posted, I'm not a particularly attractive woman and I don't look particularly young for my age.
But I was feeling really good after the ride: The day was perfect for it, at least by my standards, and I felt even more energized near the end of it than I did when I started. Maybe that had something to do with the experience I had tonight: When I stopped during my ride, men were coming up to me to ask for the time of day or to compliment me on my bike. The latter is plausible, as it is a really nice bike; still, I have to wonder whether all of those men knew enough about bikes or cycling to know how good a bike it is. And the others came to me because they wanted to know the time of day like all of those fathers who disappeared were "just going out for a pack of cigarettes."
Yes, I was having fun. I've noticed that people respond to that. As Cyndi Lauper sang, girls wanna have fun. And guys seem to like girls (even ones my age!) who are having fun.
Still, I have to think that the young supermarket employee who "accidentally" bumped into me must have met other women--at least some of whom had to be younger and much more attractive than I am--who were enjoying themselves. After all, this is a holiday weekend, so people are under less pressure than they'd normally be. (At least they are if they don't have kids or other people to take care of!) And, given the kind of neighborhood this is, I'm sure that some women who fit that description found their way into that supermarket during his shift.
That young man is one year younger than half my age. In fact, he's younger than the last guy I was involved with and found to be too immature for me. He's not bad-looking; in fact, I'd say he's kinda cute. Still, I don't understand why he wants to see me again. And he was not at all shy about making his feelings known to me. I guess that's really what's bothering me: I scarcely know him (I've seen him a few times in the store; he started working there a couple of months ago.) and, out of the blue, he started hitting on me. I suppose I should be flattered by that. All right, I'll admit that I am. But I still don't want it or, at least, I don't feel the need to be flattered in that way. Plus, I haven't really gotten over the emotional abuse I experienced in my last two relationships (one fairly long, the other a "fling"). Perhaps I'm still on "high alert," which could be the reason why I see the attention as a kind of mind-fuck, or something that has the potential to become that.
Hmm...I wonder how he'd react if he saw me some time during the coming week after a day of work, especially now that I'm coming into one of the more stressful parts of the year at work. Then again, I'd be cleaned up and dressed better, and would probably be wearing some makeup. Is he the type who'd like women who are well-dressed and stressed-out. Maybe he doesn't have any experience with a woman like that. I'm not so sure I'd want to be the one to give it to him.
Then again, he might not be there the next time I go to that store. After all, he is young and, hopefully, on the move. Or he might get fired for hitting on one of his co-workers. On the other hand, his boss is the kind who might not fire him for something like that.
Sooner or later, I'll need something or other and go back to that store. (It's right on the corner of my block, so I have little reason not to go there.) If not next time, soon after I'll go in after a bike ride or something else that has me in a really good mood. What then?
No, I didn't get date-raped, or raped in any other way. Fucked, maybe. Well, I didn't have sex; then again, I wasn't looking for it. But I feel that, in some way, I was ambushed by someone's sexual desire or curiosity.
I'd just gotten back from taking a bike ride after the class I taught. I hadn't showered or changed, so I was kind of sweaty and grimy. (It was unusually warm for this time of year.) Also, as you can see in the photos I've posted, I'm not a particularly attractive woman and I don't look particularly young for my age.
But I was feeling really good after the ride: The day was perfect for it, at least by my standards, and I felt even more energized near the end of it than I did when I started. Maybe that had something to do with the experience I had tonight: When I stopped during my ride, men were coming up to me to ask for the time of day or to compliment me on my bike. The latter is plausible, as it is a really nice bike; still, I have to wonder whether all of those men knew enough about bikes or cycling to know how good a bike it is. And the others came to me because they wanted to know the time of day like all of those fathers who disappeared were "just going out for a pack of cigarettes."
Yes, I was having fun. I've noticed that people respond to that. As Cyndi Lauper sang, girls wanna have fun. And guys seem to like girls (even ones my age!) who are having fun.
Still, I have to think that the young supermarket employee who "accidentally" bumped into me must have met other women--at least some of whom had to be younger and much more attractive than I am--who were enjoying themselves. After all, this is a holiday weekend, so people are under less pressure than they'd normally be. (At least they are if they don't have kids or other people to take care of!) And, given the kind of neighborhood this is, I'm sure that some women who fit that description found their way into that supermarket during his shift.
That young man is one year younger than half my age. In fact, he's younger than the last guy I was involved with and found to be too immature for me. He's not bad-looking; in fact, I'd say he's kinda cute. Still, I don't understand why he wants to see me again. And he was not at all shy about making his feelings known to me. I guess that's really what's bothering me: I scarcely know him (I've seen him a few times in the store; he started working there a couple of months ago.) and, out of the blue, he started hitting on me. I suppose I should be flattered by that. All right, I'll admit that I am. But I still don't want it or, at least, I don't feel the need to be flattered in that way. Plus, I haven't really gotten over the emotional abuse I experienced in my last two relationships (one fairly long, the other a "fling"). Perhaps I'm still on "high alert," which could be the reason why I see the attention as a kind of mind-fuck, or something that has the potential to become that.
Hmm...I wonder how he'd react if he saw me some time during the coming week after a day of work, especially now that I'm coming into one of the more stressful parts of the year at work. Then again, I'd be cleaned up and dressed better, and would probably be wearing some makeup. Is he the type who'd like women who are well-dressed and stressed-out. Maybe he doesn't have any experience with a woman like that. I'm not so sure I'd want to be the one to give it to him.
Then again, he might not be there the next time I go to that store. After all, he is young and, hopefully, on the move. Or he might get fired for hitting on one of his co-workers. On the other hand, his boss is the kind who might not fire him for something like that.
Sooner or later, I'll need something or other and go back to that store. (It's right on the corner of my block, so I have little reason not to go there.) If not next time, soon after I'll go in after a bike ride or something else that has me in a really good mood. What then?
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