tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334205599297722121.post8863089028453273505..comments2023-12-06T14:43:06.715-08:00Comments on Transwoman Times: Three Months: One Woman to AnotherJustine Valinottihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10852069587181432102noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334205599297722121.post-78323582551380463742009-10-08T07:32:49.353-07:002009-10-08T07:32:49.353-07:00Ed, I don't disagree with you at all. In fact...Ed, I don't disagree with you at all. In fact, I sometimes wish I'd had a child. If I were younger and to find a suitable partner, I would certainly consider adoption. I know that child wouldn't have my physical DNA, but he or she would have a sort of metaphysical counterpart to it, if you will.<br /><br />Ironically, that is one of the reasons I didn't have children: I was afraid of some kid inheriting my emotional make-up and all its constituent fears, anger and the self-hatred I felt.<br /><br />By the way, I really didn't try to encourage that girl to have an abortion. I pointed out some of the possible consequences of having an abortion as well as those of giving birth. I honestly can say I didn't know which I would've preferred that she did: I am not knee-jerk pro-abortion. I understand how her life could have been affected by having the baby. But at the same time, as someone who thinks no one has the right to take the life of another, I could understand how she felt. The difference between us was that she believed that the month-old embryo in her was a full-formed male human being; I, on the other hand, am not sure of exactly what moment the sperm and egg become a life. And I don't know whether that question will ever be resolved.Justine Valinottihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10852069587181432102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7334205599297722121.post-2635422022760906612009-10-08T02:31:57.950-07:002009-10-08T02:31:57.950-07:00Speaking as the father of two children, I can hone...Speaking as the father of two children, I can honestly say that nothing I ever do in my life will be as important as having them. <br /><br />Look at it this way: 1000 years from now, I doubt any trace of my life will be seen. My words and all I know will be lost to time, or else ignored. But hopefully, my knowledge as well as my genetics will live on in my offspring many generations from now. THAT is true immortality.<br /><br />Having said that, too often we make the mistake of saying a woman is "ruining" her life by having a baby too early. Is that possible when she will most likely never do anything more important in her life? Unless she becomes a CEO of a Fortune 500 company, or president of the U.S., or some other lofty world-moving position, then she is not ruining her life by having a baby. <br /><br />However, a woman with that kind of ambition either wouldn't get pregnant, or wouldn't question whether to get an abortion. She would know.<br /><br />I know some might call me sexist, but I would also add the same thing applies to men. Having a child, and raising that child, is the most important thing any man could do too.EdMcGonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05892046331126818396noreply@blogger.com