I guess being a man now disqualifies him from being a stone butch. But there's another reason why the label may no longer fit: I think he wanted whatever my hug could offer him. I certainly didn't mind that: Being the good stone butch, he certainly gave me pleasure when he embraced me. I just hope he enjoyed it as much as I did, if that's what he wants.
Yesterday, when I went to see Dr. Tran, a new employee at Callen Lorde rode the elevator with me. I didn't even know her name, but she embraced me as the cab arrived at Dr. Tran's office. Should I ask what that was about?
After my appointment, I rode down to Bicycle Habitat. There, I placed an order for a wheel that Hal will build for me. As I usually do, I spent some time there catching up with Josh, Sheldon, Pancho and the other employees there. On my way out, I exchanged "good-night"s with them and Charlie, the owner. As I was leaving, he picked himself up and hugged me.
I've known him for about twenty-five years. That's the first time he's done that. While he's always been friendly to me, he never seemed to be particularly affectionate, at least not in physical ways. So the unselfconscious suppleness of his embrace surprised me a little bit. Well, now I know of at least one thing his wife likes about him!
And then, just a little while ago, I went to Hannah and Her Sisters for a manicure as well as my first pedicure of the season. Tonight, Annie, who doesn't speak much English, did my manicure as Karen did my pedicure. While filing the nails on my left hand, Annie propped her head against my shoulder. And, as she worked, I noticed that she was holding on to my hand a bit longer than she usually does. Later, as I sat with my toes and fingers in the nail dryers, she rubbed her hands on my forearms and, again, propped her head on my shoulders. And, finally, as I got up to leave, she hugged me.
She said something to Hannah, which she translated: "You are a really sweet person."
Hmm... Spring really is in the air, isn't it? It certainly is a time of change!